Other Resources
“The School of Dying Graces” – Richard Felix

“The Year of Magical Thinking” – Joan Dideon

“A Grace Disguised” – Jerry Sittser

Website Recommendations:
www.griefnet.org  an on-line community of the bereaved helping the bereaved since 1994.
Over 55 e-mail support groups provide virtual time discussions of specific losses, such a loss of a
parent, loss of a child, loss due to suicide, military losses, etc. GriefNet is a non-profit

www.virtual-memorials.com   an Online Memorial Website that celebrates the personal life
story of a departed loved one.
The School of Dying Graces is the deeply honest and beautifully written account of
two very different spiritual journeys--the journey of Dr. Richard Felix, then
president of Azusa Pacific University, and that of his beloved wife, Vivian, a
terminal cancer patient. From observing his wife prepare herself spiritually for
dying, Dr. Felix discovers that special gifts--living graces--come to those who
persevere through suffering. In this thought-provoking and inspiring story forged
through his wife's victorious dying, Dr. Felix offers profound truths for those who
want to live victoriously.
From The New Yorker
Didion's husband, the writer John Gregory Dunne, died of a heart attack, just after
they had returned from the hospital where their only child, Quintana, was lying in a
coma. This book is a memoir of Dunne's death, Quintana's illness, and Didion's
efforts to make sense of a time when nothing made sense. "She's a pretty cool
customer," one hospital worker says of her, and, certainly, coolness was always part
of the addictive appeal of Didion's writing. The other part was the dark side of cool,
the hyper-nervous awareness of the tendency of things to go bad. In 2004, Didion had
her own disasters to deal with, and she did not, she feels, deal with them coolly, or
even sanely. This book is about getting a grip and getting on; it's also a tribute to an
extraordinary marriage.
The experience of loss does not have to be the defining moment of our lives, writes
Gerald Sittser. Instead, the defining moment can be our response to the loss. It is not
what happens to us that matters so much as what happens in us. Sittser knows. A
tragic accident introduced him to loss of a magnitude few of us encounter. But this is
not a book about one man's sorrow. It's about the grace that can transform us in the
midst of sorrow. For those experiencing loss, A Grace Disguised offers a
compassionate, deeply affirming message of hope, richness in living, and joy not after
the darkness, but even in the midst of it.